Try reverse psychology for in laws problem
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
My friend, she isn't going well with her in laws, she said. She always asked me what to do when she was told to stay longer at their house, and her own daughter loves them very much and refuse to follow her to the other side family.
I am not an expert, i myself google the solution. Of course there are lots of solution.
But one thing that I remembered..if direct solution is not working, she can use the reverse psychology. Often she complains how she doesnt get along with her in laws. Why not now, she turn everything upside down for good? not to lie to anybody..but to try it in a positive way.
I cant reply her whats app at the moment..because I think she might want to disscuss more, while i'm a little bit busy with my poorly daughter right now.. syafakillah dear Muna :'(.
And this are the step you can take, my friend.
1. enjoy whatever your husband and daughter like to do. Do it even you feel forced to do.. but actually if it isnt wrong in Allah' s sight..why dont you do it too. It can release your stress over something. And maybe it is just you who have thought it in a complex way.
2. ALWAYS discuss the matter of family with your own husbnd. Not with other people more. Perhaps he doesnt seem to care what had you said, but he is for sure may think over this sometimes. And it is important to keep praying may Allah soften his hard.
3. Deeds you can make to soften your heart and your family's heart:
- lots of duaa for them and zikrullah while cooking/ doing house chores.
- read Quran a lot
- pray that Allah forgives your husband and both sides' parents. remind yourself, mention to Allah their goodness
- play the audio of Surah Taha a lot in the house.
- make a sharing of knowledge everyday with your husband. As rememberance of Allah does soften the hearts by Allah' s permission
- depend solely on Allah
- TAHAJUD. for it is the strength and time to collect abundance of help from Allah
- love your in laws. Show them that you appreciate them. Insha Allah..they will want to love you back, and would wanna understand your feeling finally. Do it sincerely, as people like to be appreciated. Maybe one day they will feel sympathy towards you.
- read more..google more.. be creative to make your life full of happiness. change the way you look at the problems.
insya Allah :)
My friend, she isn't going well with her in laws, she said. She always asked me what to do when she was told to stay longer at their house, and her own daughter loves them very much and refuse to follow her to the other side family.
I am not an expert, i myself google the solution. Of course there are lots of solution.
But one thing that I remembered..if direct solution is not working, she can use the reverse psychology. Often she complains how she doesnt get along with her in laws. Why not now, she turn everything upside down for good? not to lie to anybody..but to try it in a positive way.
I cant reply her whats app at the moment..because I think she might want to disscuss more, while i'm a little bit busy with my poorly daughter right now.. syafakillah dear Muna :'(.
And this are the step you can take, my friend.
1. enjoy whatever your husband and daughter like to do. Do it even you feel forced to do.. but actually if it isnt wrong in Allah' s sight..why dont you do it too. It can release your stress over something. And maybe it is just you who have thought it in a complex way.
2. ALWAYS discuss the matter of family with your own husbnd. Not with other people more. Perhaps he doesnt seem to care what had you said, but he is for sure may think over this sometimes. And it is important to keep praying may Allah soften his hard.
3. Deeds you can make to soften your heart and your family's heart:
- lots of duaa for them and zikrullah while cooking/ doing house chores.
- read Quran a lot
- pray that Allah forgives your husband and both sides' parents. remind yourself, mention to Allah their goodness
- play the audio of Surah Taha a lot in the house.
- make a sharing of knowledge everyday with your husband. As rememberance of Allah does soften the hearts by Allah' s permission
- depend solely on Allah
- TAHAJUD. for it is the strength and time to collect abundance of help from Allah
- love your in laws. Show them that you appreciate them. Insha Allah..they will want to love you back, and would wanna understand your feeling finally. Do it sincerely, as people like to be appreciated. Maybe one day they will feel sympathy towards you.
- read more..google more.. be creative to make your life full of happiness. change the way you look at the problems.
insya Allah :)
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